Calm Mother, These Tips on Handling Tantrums in Toddlers

When Mother was shopping with the Little One, she suddenly asked to buy a toy that was not suitable for her age. He whined, then after a long time crying, screaming, and rolling on the supermarket floor. Ouch, why do toddlers often tantrum like that? Tantrums are expressions of frustration expressed by children when they face challenges at certain times. This frustration is what triggers an anger called a tantrum. In the above situation, Little is frustrated because he did not get the toy he wanted. Children will tantrum more easily, especially if they are hungry, tired, sleepy, or thirsty.

Classified as Normal

Tantrums occur most often in toddlers, especially 1-4 years of age, when they are learning to communicate effectively. Mother can be relieved because tantrum habits will tend to subside along with the development of the ability of the child to express their wishes. In addition, tantrums are more often experienced by hyperactive children, children who have strong desires, moody, and children who have difficulty adapting to new environments. In this tantrum phase, simple invitations such as bathing or eating while he is busy watching TV can blow his temper.

So Tantrums Are Not Prolonged

Fulfilling the wishes of a toddler every time he tantrums is a way of handling that is less precise. This will only make him more often angry if his wishes are not fulfilled. Generally, to deal with tantrum children, Mother only needs to remain calm and does not need to always grant all her wishes, if necessary, occasionally be a little more assertive or ignore while still being watched. Here's how the treatment can be tried:

• Calm your heart and mind

Getting angry at a toddler who is in a tantrum will not solve the problem. Calmly but firmly, tell the child that anger is an unacceptable attitude.

• Do not immediately obey the wishes of the Little One

If you know that Little Tantrum is to attract Mother's attention so that her wishes are obeyed, don't give up. Hold it while saying that Mother loves him, but will not obey his wishes. If this doesn't work, ignore the tantrums and ignore the gazes of people around you who might be bothered. Over time he will realize that his screams will not work and stop.

• Give time and wait for the Little One to calm down

In tantrums that occur at home, Mother can give her 1-2 minutes to calm down by leaving her alone without obeying her wishes. Ask him to sit in a chair until he is calm. If his anger has subsided, Mother can invite him to say that his actions are unacceptable and explain the reason why he was asked to sit in that chair. Likewise if tantrums occur outside the home. If possible, do not pay attention to this attitude. If the tantrums shown are dangerous enough, you should take the child to a more closed location to calm him down.

• Avoid your child from the possibility of hurting yourself or others

Hold it if your little one starts hurting other people or your own mother, like hitting or kicking.

Although classified as general, but you should look for possible causes and ways to deal with the right if it happens too often. You can check with your doctor. This needs to be done especially if when your Little Tantrum starts hurting yourself or if you yourself feel overwhelmed or out of control when handling it. Tantrums in certain cases can become more severe, due to health problems such as chronic diseases, vision problems, or late talking. In addition, based on an appropriate diagnosis, your child can also be referred to a child psychologist to get special treatment. Be patient and patient, support the child's growth and development, by following the principles of parenting or good parenting to form the positive character of the child. Generally tantrums will subside on their own as the child's maturity in self-control. With the right assistance, the greater he will be easier to communicate and work together, and can handle the frustration that is felt.